EP319: How to Actually Get Unstuck In Your Finance
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You ever have one of those days where time feels like it’s slipping through your fingers? Like no matter how hard you try, you’re not getting ahead — just stuck in the same spot?
Friend, if that’s you… I want you to know:
You are not alone.
But more importantly?
You are not out of options.
What I’m about to share isn’t just a feel-good pep talk or a Pinterest quote with a pretty background. This is the master key. The thing that shifts everything. Especially if you’ve been circling the runway for years — waiting on the “right time,” the “perfect plan,” or maybe just one more YouTube video…
This is your moment to take off.
Let me tell you something most people don’t realize:
You’re not stuck because of inflation or income or timing.
You’re stuck because you haven’t started.
Yep. The start — it stops most people.
Let that sink in.
We think we need confidence first. But confidence doesn’t lead to movement.
Movement leads to confidence.
Every time.
Want to know how we built a $400 million real estate portfolio in under seven years — and walked away with a $45 million+ exit?
It didn’t start with a trust fund or a perfect strategy.
It started with something radically simple:
We said yes before we felt ready.
That’s it. That was the launchpad.
And I learned that lesson — the hard, exhilarating way — while hang gliding over the freaking Swiss Alps.
Not exactly the kind of thing you ease into.
You don’t step off gently. You run.
Full-speed. Straight off a cliff.
(Yes, really.)
The instructor looked me square in the eye and said, “When I say go, we run. Don’t stop. Don’t slow down. Trust the gear. Trust the process. And don’t hold back.”
My whole body screamed, “BAD IDEA!”
My brain was like, “Can we just walk into this instead?”
Spoiler alert: if you hesitate mid-run… you fall.
There’s no halfway. You’re either in, or you’re off the mountain.
And honestly? That moment — sprinting toward the unknown — it felt a whole lot like life.
Because so many of us do run toward our dreams…
But then slow down right at the edge.
We let the fear creep in. We second-guess. We hold back.
And that? That’s the danger zone.
Too far in to turn around, not fully committed to fly.
But the moment you commit — when both feet leave the ground and all you’ve got under you is air and trust?
That’s when lift happens.
The wind catches you.
The ground falls away.
And the fear that had you frozen?
It doesn’t follow you into the air.
That’s not a metaphor. It’s physics.
The universe rewards motion.
So maybe today… this is your cliff.
This is your sign to run.
Not wait.
Not plan more.
Not buy another course or read one more blog post.
Just — go.
Because here’s the real kicker:
It’s not fear that’s stopping most of us.
It’s anxiety pretending to be fear.
Fear is immediate. It’s “lion in the room” stuff.
Anxiety is the imagined lion — just a rustle in the bushes.
But your body reacts the same: sweaty palms, tight chest, racing thoughts.
We treat anxiety like it means “stop.”
But it’s actually the signal to check your thoughts — and keep moving.
And you know what else I’ve learned?
Most people aren’t afraid of failing.
They’re afraid of what might happen if they actually succeed.
“What if I get rejected?”
“What if I lose it all?”
“What if people find out I don’t know what I’m doing?”
But let’s be real — none of that’s happening yet.
And maybe it never will.
You’re just standing still because of shadows.
I’ll never forget the first time I went bungee jumping.
(I’m clearly a glutton for high-stakes metaphors.)
The wind was wild, the platform swayed, and my stomach said, “Yeah, we’re not doing this.”
But when I jumped?
The fear didn’t come with me.
It stayed behind.
I was weightless.
And I couldn’t stop laughing.
Same thing happened when we said yes to our very first multifamily deal.
We were invited in as co-general partners — and had to raise capital.
One problem: we’d never raised a dime before.
No Wall Street contacts. No rich aunties. Just a little email list and a whole lot of hope.
We were excited — and terrified.
We could’ve waited. Gotten “ready.” Built the perfect deck. Hired a fancy consultant.
But instead? We said yes.
And then figured it out.
We told the truth:
“We’re new. But we’re not alone. Our team has experience. We’re bringing it to the table.”
Some people gave us a shot.
Some trusted us with six-figure checks.
That deal? It exited 27 months later with a 311% return.
One scary yes changed everything.
If we had waited to feel ready, we would’ve missed the deal that made everything else possible.
So if you’ve been waiting?
For the market to settle…
For the right time…
For your fear to fade…
Friend — I love you — but it’s time to stop waiting.
Start.
Before you feel ready.
Because action — messy, nervous, brave action — is the only thing that creates momentum.
Here’s how you start building financial + time freedom fast (even if you feel totally unready):
✅ Step 1: Know Your Cash Flow
Net worth might look impressive on paper. But you can’t spend equity unless you’re selling your lifestyle.
What matters more?
Cash flow. That’s the real engine.
Wall Street wants you focused on assets you can’t touch for 40 years.
Why? Because they get to charge you fees today.
But here’s the truth:
If every dollar you earn depends on your time, you’re not building wealth. You’re building a treadmill.
Let’s break it down:
🧠 Ask yourself:
- Where is your money actually coming from?
- Is it from your effort (a job or your business)?
- Or is it from your money working for you (like rental income, dividends, passive gains)?
That distinction? It changes everything.
🎯 Your real goal:
Get your invested income to cover 100% of your monthly expenses.
That way, even if you stop trading time for money…
Your lifestyle doesn’t skip a beat.
That, my friend, is freedom.
🛠️ Your quick cash flow audit:
- Review the past 12 months of income
- Label each stream: “Earned” vs. “Invested”
- List all expenses — fixed, variable, and fun stuff
- Find your monthly margin — what’s left to invest?
📊 Example:
Let’s say you bring in $10,000/month:
- $8,000 from your job
- $2,000 from real estate
That means 20% of your lifestyle is already covered by invested income.
Amazing. Now? Let’s scale that.
You’ve got this.
You don’t need permission.
You just need to move.
Because the edge? It’s not the end.
It’s the beginning of everything. 💛
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